Non-traditional therapy sessions.
Patient and sincere volunteers of Kaunas Hospital, in communication with patients, hear countless life stories: invented and real.
It could turn out that our wards tell the stories of their lives so much and for so long because they suffer from loneliness and pain…
But it is worth remembering that such stories are also created by our loved ones and even by ourselves.
All life stories usually begin with a parent's or grandparents' story of our (or another "author's) birth (or stories that relate to us even though we were not yet born). The following are the first memories, the strongest impressions. History grows, expands, it is constantly supplemented by new experiences, feelings, and a different understanding shines.
How much does life history correspond to reality? We remember far from everything we experience, or rather only a small part of it. Most of us have heard our loved ones assert you by behaving or saying one way or another, even though you don’t remember it at all. Hence, we subconsciously choose which experience to remember and include in our story, and which is better to miss or at least a little embellishment. Memory is picky.
Why tell a person your life story in general? By sorting memories and telling them, we manage not to get lost in the abundance of information, experiences, and feelings. The psyche puts together a meaningful picture of rich and chaotic content. Not all of us write diaries, books of memories, not all force our loved ones to listen to endless memories for long evenings, but we all constantly recount our lives to ourselves. Our life story is "written" by our memory.
What is a life story? It is a plot created from the facts of life, to which our consciousness uses a little imagination, giving a patchwork of vast amounts of information an acceptable lyrical form to ourselves and others.
Some fall "out of form", some appear "from themselves" or "from the side" (a person may appropriate another person's experience, for example, may be sacredly convinced that it was an event that happened to him as a child, when in fact he did so). friend or relative) is given a certain rhythm and intonation (painful, uplifting, monotonous, sensual, etc.).
The most interesting thing is that you can see not one, but many different scenes from the same text! In other words, actual life can feed a whole host of life stories, and they will all be close to the truth - sometimes very close, and sometimes very far away.
A life story can and should be told to someone: a diary, a friend, a confessor or a psychotherapist.
An in-depth narrative is one way to reach deeper layers of memory. By experiencing narrative therapy and clearing ourselves of certain defensive screens, of self-deception, we can open those doors of memory that we ourselves have unconsciously closed.
We tend to simplify, summarize. We try to understand reality by "simplifying" it - in this way we make mistakes in the stories. Instead of simplifying, we "simplify" our life stories.
In order for our stories not to be "bad", banal, shallow - we need to deviate a little from our own knowledge in order to look closely at the ever-renewing reality around us and open the door to a different worldview, a different way of thinking, a fresh insight. The history of life better reflects life itself, the more it is similar to life itself - rich and constantly changing.
Let there be no shortage of unexpected plot twists and openings, commas, parentheses, polka dots and exclamations in our stories - out of wonder and humble wisdom.
LATVIAN psychotherapist, supervisor, studying and analyzing the impact of films, dreams, fairy tales on the development of human personality and human psychotherapy GINTA RATNIECE recommended the film "Fish of My Life" to our great hospice team. http://kinogo.co/2009-krupnaya-ryba-2003.html (in Russian)
The film lasts 1.45 hours.